Monday, November 9, 2009

The Only Daughters Parents club

The “ Only Daughters Parents Club” is exclusively for the people with only daughters, to spread the message that “the girl child is the best thing to happen to a couple”.
We all have a reason to believe in the same. We daughters have made our parents proud for us, its only their upbringing and values that are imbibed in us, has made us an achiever. There are still many educated couples who get depressed over a girl’s brith. Moreover, though instances of female foeticide are reported all over, no one seems to do much to curb it.
I am the fourth daughter to my parents but never ever found my parents complaining over the same, infact had been raised with the same enthusiasm, with which my eldest sister was brought up.But have seen my neighbour who had just one daughter, who had loads of complains against GOD for not granting him a son, who can take the “VANSH” ahead.





That is how I got inspired to launch this club.



It is a known fact that since time immemorial, male chauvinism has been dominant one. Whether it is the field of sports or science, going to the moon or exploring newer lands, politics or beurocracy, it is the man who has been taking the lead role. In many religions women are not given equal status. India is no exception to this reality. Reasons may be many, but the fact is that women are considered to be second to men. In fact, men make conscious efforts to see that women do remain behind them. In many states in India, a female child is not encouraged for education. Probably, this is one of the reasons of backwardness of women there. They are at the mercy of men.
Overall mindset is such that when a girl child is born, there is hardly any celebration in the family, while whole world comes to know when a male child is born. So much so, there are many reports of female faeticides and infanticides in our country. This is in spite of the fact that Government of India has enforced many laws.
Enforcement of law is not the only solution as it is the mindset towards female child which is culprit. It is the attitude of the parents that is the culprit. The irony is that wife also joins her husband in generating love for a male child and ‘no love’ for a female child. May be, her overall bringing up and grooming is oriented towards usefulness and importance of males. Otherwise, how is that a mother feels proud when she delivers a male child; and is not happy and sometimes even sad when she delivers a female child. It is sheer nonsense, but is a truth.
There is a need to understand the psychology of the parents so that awareness programs are created in order to change their mindset. We need to explore the blocks in the minds of the parents so that the methods are developed and designed in order to make them mentally liberal and open to accept the reality. We need to identify the kind of people who oppose the ‘female-hood’ so that appropriate measures are taken in order to generate respect for a female child.


Current Aims & Objectives :


· Spreading the message to respect the girl child
· Generating & consolidating confidence in the girl child
· Counselling by senior girl children to the younger ones for carreer planning
· Supporting each other in the time of need during studies, health problems, marriage etc
· Suggesting suitable matrimonial alliances
· Having get-togethers of the children
· Having networking amongst them
· Exhibiting and sharing talents amongst each other

This club has multi-pronged objectives. It will not only build a social network among parents with daughters but also hold seminars to sensitise people about the girl child. It will help in generating funds for studies or weddings of members’ children.
“We also plan to have sessions where daughters of members, who are successful professionals can interact with other girls and bolster their confidence. In addition, the club will also be a platform to suggest matrimonial alliances.”


Become a member and help in for good cause. There is no membership fees.

24 comments:

  1. I was absolutely zapped when Riddhi, my better half, first informed me of such a club!! The objectives of the club are simply heart touching. I would encourage eligible parents to passionately join the club. Wish all the club members loads of success in their venture.

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  2. It’s about time someone took the lead on this. Hats off to you, Riddhi Doshi - Patel. You have a very relevant topic and I appreciate the fact that you have wanted to do this even after being the fourth daughter of your parents.

    We Indians, have been seeing this nuisance increasing at an alarming pace and have been compromising. I appeal that let us all get involved and mobilize public opinion. Sensitise individuals, communities and law protection forces to understand, recognize and protect women and girls. Let us all pledge to “Welcome the girl child to this world”, the procreator, the mother of tomorrow and let her live a life of a woman who shapes the destiny of civilization. Let us all pledge for the girl child for her to be valued, loved, educated, empowered and free to live life in all its fullness while realizing the tragic irony of fate, that a beautiful creation such as the girl child is today one of the gravest concerns facing humanity.

    Riddhi Doshi – Patel, I would suggest you develop training courses for parents and teachers to understand girls’ needs. I believe you can be that one special someone person who will create a difference in the lives of the parents with only daughters. You take care.

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  3. Thanks!!!!! That was indeed a very motivating message left for me Tushar and Mr. Smile. Mr. Smile your name is'nt displayed, you a member of ODP?

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  4. My wife is an only daughter and so is my daughter. Both complain about not having any sisters to share their concerns.
    Sometimes there is an intolerance towards male reactions and sometimes even to other females as well cause they grew up with men all around and had only their mother as the female companion. They both are like sisters now and so I sometimes feel that respect for the mother is less and so there is an element of defiance and ensuing fights.
    I may be wrong yet that's what i see.

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  5. Well Mrs.Riddhi Doshi - Patel, like Shakespeare sadi "What's in a name?". As yet I am ineligible to become a member of your club but I promise to join it once the criteria are overcomed.

    "Smile, laugh and be enthusiastic about life even when you have no reason to be. By breaking the negative pattern, you will create many great reasons to smile and spread the contagious smile into others life too." Wish you good luck and great success in all the future endeavours of the ODP Club.

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  6. You are most welcome Mr. Smile!! I appreciate your hidden support for the group. Thank you very much

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  7. Dear Riddhi,

    Kudos to you to have come up with this. I'm an only daughter and absolutely love being one. When I handle responsibilities towards my parents while achieveing my career and life goals... it is a thrilling experience.

    Will do my best to promote this blog among my friends circle. And would love to read and share experiences.

    Best Regards,
    Sandhya Iyer

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  8. That would be great Ms. Sandhya. If possible pelase let me have your email id, so that I can forward the membership form to you.

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  9. Hello to all the members of ODP Club,

    I am not getting reply to my emails to all of you, kindly stay in touch, thats how the mission would be accomplished.

    thanks

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  10. Hello to all the members of ODP Club!!
    The first meet of ODP Club is held at Karnavati Club on 12th December, 2009 at 6.30 pm.
    Members please be on time.

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  11. This is somewhat experimental and a brand new initiative from your side Riddhi. Kudos to you for this. My parents equally qualify to be a member of your club !!!

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  12. Thanks a lot Priya, your parents are most welcome to be a part of the ODP club.Could I please have your email id, so that I can forward the membership form to you for your parents.

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  13. Wishing all the members and well wishers of the ODP club - "A very prosperous, healthy and successful 2010"

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  14. Dear Members,
    Its been long that you got any updates from me.
    Its been the most coveted news which finally today got confirmed, so thought of sharing with you all.

    The ODP club has adopted three lovely princessess, who were admitted in the orphanage just two months back by their relatives because of the sudden death of their parents,, none of the relatives were ready to look after the three girls. Mr. Harish Bhatt, a resident of Ahmedabad and a member of the ODP club got to know about the same and in turn he initmated me. The girls have been given admission in a girls hostel and would be taken special care by the hostel in charge as they are a bit young,,, Mr. Harish Bhatt's daughter is going to look after them and we have got their admission done in a Ahmedabad based school.
    Their education and stay would be taken care by ODP club.

    Kudos to all those who helped me to get the things settled as early as possible.

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  15. Daughter Week !!! ♥ If you have one Daughter or more, who makes your life interesting and fun, It is a blessing in your life and makes life worth living..

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  16. Hi Riddhi,
    congrats on starting this initiative.pl include me as a member as im a parent to a girl child who is the only child.

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  17. Hi Rajendra, kindly please let me have your email id, would send you the membership form .

    thanks

    Riddhi

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  18. Hi Riddhi,
    Nice to know about this noble initiative. We would be interested to be a member of the club as well.
    Regards,
    Nimesh

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    1. Hello Rajendra and Nimesh, please let me have your email id's to enable me to send you the membership form.

      thanks

      Riddhi

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    2. Please let me have your email id to enable me to send you the membership form.

      Riddhi

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  19. Dear Riddhi

    I salute your desire to take initiatives to bring all the people having the status of "only daughters-parents" on a single platform.

    I have only one daughter studying in class 12 in Chennai and wish to be part of your team. Further, I will appreciate if you could send further details on my email ID - kantesh017@gmail.com for helping me understand your objectives better.

    Looking forward to your response.

    With regards,

    Kantesh Kumar Singh
    94441-80760

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  20. Dear ODP member....please do visit...kindly mention that you are a ODP member.....the credit of this invitation goes to Ms Parul.
    Thanks a lot Ms. Parul


    Dear Riddhi,
    In recognition of the United Nation’s designated International Day of the Girl Child, aProCh and The Bindi Project present a celebration specifically for fathers and daughters day on Sunday, 13th October 2013 at Parimal Garden. The Bindi Project is an NGO based at the Gandhi Ashram working to foster love and respect for women and girls by working with men and boys.

    Date: 13th October 2013
    Time: 10:00 am – 1:00 pm
    Place: Parimal Garden
    Activities: Dance performances | Sports and games | Arts and crafts

    The highlight will be the testimony of fathers about their love and respect for their daughters.
    We invite your organisation to attend the event. Fathers and daughters of all ages encouraged to attend.
    Warm regards,
    Kirti Zala | Sunil Desai

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  21. Hi, im a man 30 years old, I read the post and im totally agree with your opinion, from now i change my mind, i want only daughters too ; )

    I want five daughters, im not a father yet ; (, so i hope to get your help with counsels and opinions

    Congratulations for your work, thanks for your inspiration

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